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I believe in the power of inspiration and having a vision is essential to leading a life that’s full of accomplishment and personal satisfaction, but I would never confuse ambition with fantasy. Here is the key difference: ambition relies on specifics, fantasy fuels fantasy. Here is an example of an ambition: Sara is 19 years old, she wants to be married, have 2 children, and freelance as a graphic designer by the age of 30. These are very specific, measurable, and attainable within her time frame. In other words, she has realistic ambitions. Here is an example of fantasy: I want to marry rich, have a family, live in a mansion, and make six figures after I graduate. These goals are extremely high, they are vague, they are not measurable, and most importantly, they are not set within a realistic time frame. In other words, it is an instant recipe for failure.

It is a common tragedy for ambition to be extinguished in the hot pursuit of unrealistic desires. Once failure has been experienced, the natural instinct is to stop setting goals, coast through life aimlessly, and lose faith in yourself, always relying on other people’s advice to move forward. You start to commit thinking errors like jumping to negative conclusions and you immediately convince yourself that you can’t improve your life or that fate is conspiring against you. Another major source of unhappiness is comparing. We constantly compare ourselves to other people: our looks, our careers, our income, our vehicles, etc. There is no point in comparing yourself to other people because nobody wins. Everyone has their own unique talents and everyone is an essential contributor to this mystery called life. You don’t have to slip on every pair of panties. Briefs or cheekies? Hiphuggers or boyshorts? Get comfortable with remaining true to yourself. Whatever you desire out of life, make sure that it’s based on what you want, and don’t let society and the media influence your sense of accomplishment.

Here is another inconvenient truth: It is a waste of money is to buy lingerie for the sake of “feeling sexy” and hiding from your disaffection. Your sex appeal should not depend on the virtues of cotton, satin, lace, silk, etc. If anything, your inner hotness sexes it up. If you’re buying lingerie to feel good, then you’re simply participating in a psychological arms race against your depression, and loads of unloved lingerie end up stockpiled, depreciated, deserted, and eventually donated or discarded. It’s a toxic waste! On the other hand, you could die from the over-consumption of edible underwear, but we won’t go there ;o)

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